Friday, July 25, 2014

Immortal Dreams: By, Jennifer Sage


Isabel has had some very unusual experiences when it comes to men. In fact, they typically tend to steer completely clear of her. One lousy tornado and a few storms and she is dubbed ‘lighting girl’ by all. However, on the eve of her 22nd birthday things change literally, overnight.
When Isabel wakes up in a dream with a man not fit for human consumption she can’t believe it. And upon waking things go even more haywire. Never could she have imagined the world that she sees once the ‘blinders’ are off. Abandoned by the very person who sent these gifts to her to see the world for what it is, she is naturally skeptical of it all.
Her men problems before were laughable. Enter two of the most gorgeous creatures she had ever laid eyes upon. Add a curse and a requirement to pick one in the next 9 days. Make that nights, since she can only reach them in her dreams.
Oh, and it just so happens if she picks the wrong one then the veil between all the magical realms could be destroyed and create ultimate chaos and death. Both men want to seduce her and make her his, but only one will lead to restoring the realms, and her heart.
So heavy the burden, so great the stakes. Will she even survive the war that has already begun to rage between the worlds before her choice is made? There are the waking hours too, that are contending for her fate. And very little help is on her side….
 
 
**DISCLAIMER: This book is not intended for persons under the age 18 due to graphic violence, sex and language.**
 
PS: As a reader, I found this book captivating and well written. I feel in love with the characters immediately and began wanting to know what would happen to these characters I fell in love with. I loved how the book ended as well. I don’t want to spoil a good read, so I highly recommend reading this book!

Monday, July 21, 2014

The Most Marketable Skills in Today’s Ever-Changing Job Market


As a college graduate, you may find it difficult to find a job after your graduation. However, don’t be dismayed, because there are many ways you can showcase your talents and skills that you have learned in your college courses. Becoming versatile in your field of study is the most important skill for you to have, especially once you begin your endless array of job interviews. Be sure to sell yourself to each company that you come in contact with, but don’t over exaggerate your talents and skills.

First, you must be willing to change or shift your areas of interest, if you are unable to find a job in your main area of interest. For example, maybe you are a business graduate, but you may not be able to find a job in your field of study. Second, do your homework and find other areas of interest in the business field, like helping small businesses succeed or becoming a business consultant. Next, change your resume to reflect the skills that you have to offer a future employer.

Take the time to evaluate every job in your field of interest, so you can begin narrowing your skill set. This will help you become more appealing to a potential employer, but during your interview be willing to admit things that you may not know. For example, the potential employer may need someone who knows a certain program that you have never used. After the interview is over, look for classes that you can take and learn this new skill.

Now, you will be more appealing to the next potential employer that you come in contact with. Don’t give up! No matter how many rejections you receive, instead learn something that you can take away from each interview. Once you return home, analyze the interview in your mind and write down things that you think you may have done wrong. For example, talking to fast or not selling yourself correctly, because this can hurt your chances of landing the job that you have applied for.

Before your next interview, you will know what areas you will to work on and what areas you are strong in. This will make you a better candidate for the job that you are applying for, but if the employer recommends another job with less pay. Don’t be too quick to turn the other assignment down, since you can show them how valuable you are and you may receive a promotion. Sometimes, you have to start at the bottom and work your way up; however don’t forget to continue to remain versatile.

©2014, Crystal S. Kauffman



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Sunday, June 15, 2014

Another Must Read: Mustang Summer: A Novel

Another awesome book from Carol Culver Rzadkiewicz 

I just finished reading this novel and I highly recommend it to my fans and avid readers like me. This novel is one you cannot sit down, once you have begun reading it. Great Job Mrs. Carol!

To Purchase Mustang Summer 

Here is a summary from the author herself:

After three failed marriages, Ramona Raven is determined never to fall in love again and to find redemption from a lifetime of allowing men to control her destiny. So, in keeping with her Cherokee beliefs, when she dreams of a wild gray stallion, Ramona interprets the dream as a message from the Country of the Spirits. The horse is the key to her salvation. She must find the animal and bring him back to Georgia, the land that contains "the scenes of her childhood and the graves of her fathers." Yet, in order to find the horse, Ramona realizes that she is going to need help.

Help arrives in the form of Austin Cahill from Paradise, Texas. A tall, lanky cowboy, with the bluest eyes Ramona has ever seen, and former All-American Rodeo Bronc Rider, Austin is now a middle-aged drifter. Having lost his wife and child in a terrible accident, he is determined to settle down, although he's failed in the past, and to put to rest memories of the Huntsville Prison Rodeo and the crazy stallion that destroyed the only thing he had left--his ability to ride any horse breathing.

Accompanying Austin is "his daughter," Killian Russell. Deserted by her own father when she was a child, Killian has run away from an abusive, alcoholic mother, and although learning disabled, Killian is yet smarter than most people when it comes to the ways of the world, so when Austin offers her refuge, she sees it as the opportunity to escape the past and to finally have the idyllic life of which she's always dreamed of.

When Austin accepts Ramona's offer of employment, the three of them embark upon an adventure-laden journey that will take them from the rolling hills of Georgia to the sun-blasted landscape of northern Utah. Yet little do they know that this one fateful summer will change their lives forever, for in the days to come they will learn to trust, to love, and to believe in the unbelievable.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

KELTOR : Book 1 in the Guardian Archives Series....By, Jennifer Sage

Written By, 
Jennifer Sage 
To My Fans, here is an author you must read!!18 and older only! Get this book from:
Keltor is a Guardian of the light even though he exists nearly in Shadow, haunted by his past.

His world, the world of the Guardians, is a dark reality that coexists in modern day with ours.

Behind the warm veils of our lives a war rages against the Shadow Demons and the Guardians protect as much of humanity as they can, still believing in us as a race.

There is one person alive, a Keeper, who has within her the power to tilt the scales one way or another in this war. With the ability to damn the Light or the Dark and no knowledge of how to she is supposed to do either, Liz is nearly a helpless pawn. A pawn that is about to find herself completely powerless against a force greater than she has ever known.


A Guardian who lost his heart centuries ago. A female who has never really known her own. Laws that prevent them from ever finding solace in the other. Far different laws that prevent them from turning away.
A choice must be made and it’s one that could bring the most vile of Demons back from the seven hells. The Guardians are among us…and this one is forbidden fruit.

Visit her website at http://jennifersage.com

PS: My Reading fans....This is must read along with the rest of her work. You will not be able to put it down. This book is meant for 18 and older, who love Fantasy type genres..


Saturday, May 31, 2014

FREE DENTAL CARE-FILLINGS AND EXTRACTIONS



Pre-screening will be held at Park City Ministries on the…

June 5th, 2014 @ 3pm to 8pm  

and

June 7th, 2014 @ 9 am to 5pm


Park City Ministries is located at 5811 LeSabre RD. 


The Dental Van will be here on July 7-11, 2014 

Starting at 8 am. Call Dr. Wayne Rowbottom 904-554-7890


YOU MUST BE AT PRESCREENING IN ORDER TO
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Friday, May 23, 2014

Thank You Letter From LiveStrong

This is a thank you letter from LiveStrong.org, who helps us by sending wristband s for the patients.This letter is a thank you for how we have been  are blessing new patients. Thanks to all to my donors and volunteers for making this project possible. You know who you are! Our next Giveaway is in December, so I look forward to having everyone do something small to bless the new patients who are scared.Thank you!

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Wings of Hope Project - December 2014- Give Away

We successfully completed our Wings of Hope Project for March 27, 2014 give away, which consisted of 12 gift bags full of items that will be given to new patients at Shands Infusion Center for Women. We made up a nurses bag and threw some extra stuff in it, so the nurses can give them away to new patients. However, we need your help to continue the project and help us get ready for our next give away in December 2014. Let's try to get more than 12 gift bags for our next planned visit.

We do as two times in year: April and December. This way, we can reach as many patients as we can during each year. We pick out local cancer clinics or nursing homes to bless with our donated gifts. Please take a moment to look around your house and see if you may have some of the items that we need, in order to make this project a success. Each time we visit them, the nurses are happy to see us because they do not have items give out to the patients at this time due to hospital rules.

Ask your church, school, groups, clubs, or organizations to get involved and help us to continue to bless many patients with these gifts of love. For December’s give away, we will need at least 50 gift bags for men and women. We will also need 1 large gift bag for the nurses, so feel free to donate what you can.

Items we will need:

Small gifts
Gifts bags- medium 30
Thinking of you cards
Blankets- fleece throw
Bookmarks- homemade or bought
Books
Bibles
Non profits- organizations wristbands- prostate, cervical, ovarian
Anything that will cheer up a patient, men and women.
Every new patient will get a bag until they run out.
No candy!!!

Together we can make a difference!

Send items to:
Laugh at Cancer Support Community
c/o Crystal s. Kauffman
7192 Park City Dr.
Jacksonville, Florida, 32244

EMAIL me laughatcancer@gmail.com

If you send a donation of any kind.

Come on lets make a patient feel they are cared about and loved.

Donate Books for Cancer Patients


Do you have different books lying around your house, which are in good condition that you would like to give away? Currently, the Laugh at Cancer Support Community is collecting gently used books for our gift bags that we will be giving out in December 2014. These books will be given to men and women, so we ask that you send all types of books like action-adventure or romance. Due to the clinic we are working with requests, no self-help books or books about fighting cancer.

These books are meant to get the readers mind off of the treatment, while allowing their imagination to run wild. We will also need all kind of bookmarks with positive quotes, whether store bought or handmade. Additionally, we would like for our gift bags to have Bibles in them for each patient and some witnessing booklets. Maybe, a church or company can help us make this happen, but for now it is in God’s hands.

I pray that we can cheer up some patients this upcoming Christmas season. Just a quick reminder, that the yearly “Wings of Hope Project” has been changed, from three times a year to two times a year. We will have a giveaway around April 15th and December 15th of each year, because this makes it easier to collect the gift donations we need, in order to make our “New Patient Packages”. We will be working on collecting 50 bags that will be given to men and women, who have been newly diagnosed.

This way they know that there is a network of people out here that cares about what they are going through. If you can help us gather the items we need, please contact me by email (laughatcancer@gmail.com) and I will give you the information you need like an address and phone number. Thank you for taking the time to think of others, who are fighting for their livesand remember to say a prayer for them.

Monday, May 19, 2014

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding (Chapter 7)

Today, Dolly brought home new stuff from the neighbors like: cabinets, trinkets, and lots of Christmas stuff. Mandy washed the laundry and straightened up her half of the house, as she always does during the day. The kitchen was piled with boxes and Dolly’s room was piled up with boxes too, but Mandy tried to just ignore the boxes and do what she could to straighten up the main areas of the house. However, she couldn’t put dishes away that Dolly had washed, because all the boxes were in the way.

That night, Mandy and her husband Kyle stayed up to watch over Dolly, because she was twitching and jerking involuntarily. Mandy knew immediately, something was wrong, but she had an appointment with her doctor that morning. So, Mandy and her husband tried to keep her mother in her motorized wheelchair all morning long. Suddenly, she began displaying signs of an infection or an accidental pain medicine overdose which freaked Mandy out.   

Mandy called the ambulance that usually transports her mother to the hospital and she explained what she had witnessed. The ambulance drivers decided to test for a possible drug overdose and after sticking her mother Dolly with an IV and administering a narcotic reversal agent. Dolly became alert and the ambulance drivers stated that she had accidentally taken too much pain medicine. She was transported to the nearest hospital and the doctors there discovered that she also had a urinary tract infection.

During the time that Dolly was at the hospital, a lady showed up, who was with Adult Protective Services and she requested that Mandy and her husband Kyle began cleaning out the kitchen. She also advised us that Dolly needed to clean her own room, once she was able to home from the hospital. Basically, Mandy’s husband Kyle had to get rid of the garbage and the rest was put in the storage room. Mandy could only help with the small stuff, due to her own disability from her cancer treatment 11 years ago.

Mandy decided to call her mother’s doctor and report that she was in the emergency room, plus Mandy decided to tell her this is the third accidental overdose. Dolly’s doctor was unaware of the facts, but stated she would handle it from here by lowering her dose. Additionally, she asked Mandy if she would manage her medications, once she got out of the hospital. Mandy hesitated and then she agreed to manage her medicines for her.

Since, the day Dolly came home, she has been less argumentative with Mandy and Kyle, which is an answered prayer. She is slowly cleaning at her room and that is frustrating, because it has to be done or Mandy and Kyle will have to clean it up as well. Mandy created a notebook or logbook where she writes down and accounts for every medication that she gives her mother. She also has been trying to give her mother freedom, yet prays she will see how her mistakes affect other people like: Mandy and Kyle.


(©2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

Saturday, May 3, 2014

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Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Thursday, April 24, 2014

A Family's Struggling With Hoarding (Chapter 6)

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Lately, Mandy has been made feel guilty, as if she has done everything wrong for the last five days due to  her mother’s negative attitude toward her each day. Dolly has been bringing in more stuff or junk, but refuses to go through she already has piled up in kitchen and liven room. She has bought Christmas supplies in that she bought and too many tables, both small and large! This type of behavior from Dolly has really frustrated Mandy and her husband Kyle, because Dolly just tells them to “shut up and leave her alone”, whenever they say anything about the amount of junk she brings in.

Unfortunately, now Mandy or Kyle are dealing with moving more of her stuff, in order to find certain dishes that they may need or to reach the dining room table. However, they cannot sit at the same table together: due to her stuff surrounding it, being on top of it, and being underneath it. They need a new or better stove, because it only has one burner working. Recently, Dolly gets angry or mad over the simplest things like: moving her boxes, throwing her trash away, and just generally cleaning up the kitchen.

Honestly, it is the frustrating to have limited access to dishes and other things that we may need while one of us is cooking. Just this week, she has brought home over fifty different items, which she got through Lola. Mandy’s best friend is Lola, so she has talked to Lola about not giving her any more stuff to bring home. However, Dolly goes down to Lola’s to beg for something she is going to put in yard sale, so she feels sorry for Dolly and gives in to her wants.

Nevertheless, Mandy’s best friend Lola hasn’t been around much, so Mandy has been feeling alone and stuck in a place that she doesn’t want to be. Thankfully, Lola helps Mandy get her mind off of the negative stuff and helps her focus on the positive things that she has in her life. For example, Mandy just stays in her room and tries to ignore her mother’s constant yelling by watching TV, as well as playing with her two dogs, listening to e-books, and writing.

Unfortunately, every day there is an argument over clothing, food, and anything else that Dolly feels belongs to her. So far, Mandy has pleaded with her mother to stop the yelling and constant screaming, but day after day it continues for whatever reason when Dolly gets in a nasty mood. Mandy just tries to ignore the arguing and fighting about stupid stuff, since she can get more clothes and she can get her own food.

Additionally, she feels berated and belittled by her own mother, which is hard to stomach sometimes and hard to handle mentally as well. Therefore, Mandy began seeking help through a psychiatrist and a counselor, which has helped. Especially, one she began taking mood stabilizers and anxiety medications, but her mom will always be a trigger for Mandy. She doesn’t want be disrespectful to her mother Dolly, but in many ways Mandy has became the parent and Dolly has became the spoiled child.

The role reversal has given Mandy things to think about, but what others suggest just will not work on her mother right now. She is defiant, greedy, and can be very nasty at times when she doesn’t get her way. Unfortunately, Dolly will do things behind everyone’s back and by the time we find out about it, it is usually too late to take back. 

Mandy prays that one day, she can teach her mother the right way to love somebody. Instead of what she was taught, which is to buy things for those you love as a form of showing that person love. Changes can be difficult, yet with God’s help, patience, long-suffering, and faith can change anyone.

(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

Monday, April 21, 2014

Manic Monday-April 21, 2014-Combating Depression

Manic Monday- Combating Depression


This is video of my best friend Laura and I discussing dealing with depression and ways to combat it, as well as other stuff. Hope you enjoy our new series of videos and my new videos that I will be uploading in near future. Sorry so long this time. Thanks for watching and subscribe to our channels. Sorry for mistake in video


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Monday, March 31, 2014

MANIC MONDAY-March 2014



This is my best friend Laura and I are discussing how we generally cope with anxiety in our lives. I apologize for strong medications I am on, because it shows in the video. 

This is our first full video together, but we plan to do more in the future. I hope you will like and subscribe to my best friend's YouTube Channel.

Additionally, I know that I must break my habit of using the words, "you know". Have blessed night!

Friday, March 28, 2014

Wings of Hope Project for March 2014



Yesterday, we gave away 12 bags for new patients at Shand’s Infusion Center For Women, plus we threw extras in the nurse’s bag. So, the nurse can make a few more bags. I am excited because we were able to bless so many patients. Come on and get involved for September’s give away.
WE Need:
small gifts
gifts bags
thinking of you cards
Non profits- organizations wristbands- prostate, cervical, ovarian
Anything to cheer a patient, no candy or perishables. 

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding (Chapter 5)

Right after waking up, Mandy walked through her mother’s room and become instantly overcome with disbelief. She was irritated that her mother had most of her boxes in the center of the room, which made it harder to get around her mother and her wheelchair. "Overwhelming chaos!"

Mandy thought as she retreated back to her room. "It is way too early for this"; she began repeating to herself and she held her head in her hands.

Today, Mandy is going to let her mom go through each box, by herself and put away the things she was pulling out. Most of the day, Mandy cleaned up her side of the house and began doing everybody’s laundry. Dolly managed to get through a few of the boxes, but in the meantime she filled her bed with stuff from the boxes. Now, she is cleaning off her bed and shoving stuff back into different boxes, which drives Mandy nuts.

Before Mandy walked in her computer room, she was baffled by what her mother was doing and offered to her put things where they belong.
“Why don’t you just put your stuff where it belongs, instead of putting it back in boxes?” Mandy asked her mother.
“Don’t worry about what I’m doing!” Dolly snapped.
Mandy felt a little angry, but she felt more crushed by her mother’s sharp tongue toward her at that moment. 

She felt like she had been punched in the stomach, yet Mandy couldn’t do anything about the intense feelings that she felt. Additionally, Dolly went back to empting certain boxes; while stuffing other slam full of stuff like knickknacks, mail, magazines, pictures, and clothing. Mandy thought they were making progress in de-cluttering their lives, but everyday it just seems like there’s more clutter.

Kyle is tired of moving Dolly’s boxes of stuff to different rooms and then to different spots all over the house. He is also annoyed when having to clean off her bed every night, whenever she piles it up with heavy things that she cannot move herself. Mandy gets overwhelmed by the constant barrage of boxes, which is stacked up and the small trail to the kitchen. Sometimes, Dolly will fall asleep in her wheelchair right in the middle of the small walkway she has created.

However, Mandy and Kyle knows that Dolly is trying to go through years and years of stuff, which has been piled up in boxes year. So, they are both trying to be patient and help her as much as they can, but Dolly has to be the one to go through her stuff. This way, she won’t think one of them is throwing her stuff away and she will know where she put her things. Mandy feels blessed that her mother has already gotten rid of a lot of boxes, but there are still many more to go.



(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding (Chapter 4)

This morning, when Mandy woke up, she found her mother passed out in her wheelchair with a large box of papers in front of her. She tried squeezing by Dolly without waking her up, but she was unable to make it around her wheelchair and the boxes that she has stacked up next to one of her dressers and medical cabinet. Mandy gently woke her up and Dolly seemed startled at first, but then she began going through the box once again. She begged her mom to lie down and get some rest, because she had been up all night going through the boxes.

Mandy went to the kitchen and noticed that there was as many boxes, as there was where she went to bed the night before. She felt pleased that her mother had taken the initiative to go through the boxes and start getting rid of things that she didn’t need. However, later on that day, Mandy found out that her mother had just consolidated the stuff into the different boxes. Finally, Mandy, asked Dolly if she could help her go through some more boxes and eliminate the need for so many boxes.

“No, I will do it myself. You will just throw my stuff away.” Dolly barked at Mandy.

“I promise that I will not throw any of your stuff away, without your permission.” Mandy replied.

Mandy knew that no matter what she does, her mother will always be a hoarder and the more she tries to organize Dolly’s life. The more resistance and negativity she receives from her mother, but Mandy is determined to somehow change circumstances that she has been dealt. Her grandparents were hoarders, just as her mother and her brother is a hoarder. Dolly is against having a yard sell or giving her stuff away to an organization that can use it to help other under families.

Currently, Dolly has three dressers full of clothing and boxes stacked about 5 foot high in some places, yet Mandy is proud that she has taken a time to finally eliminate many of the boxes that once filled up a whole room. At last count, she has about 30 more boxes to go through and then Mandy is hoping to talk her into going to her clothes. This way, she can live comfortably in the living room, instead of having the move boxes around constantly. Mandy’s mother has a lot of nice things, yet they are all stored in boxes and no one can see the beautiful pieces that she has collected over the years.

Mandy is thrilled that her mother has stayed on task and has gotten rid of many of the boxes that filled up the entire kitchen, as well as the living room. She doesn’t have that far to go, yet she still has a lot of boxes to go through still and Mandy will help her whenever she needs it. Maybe one day soon, Dolly will have her bedroom set up nicely and hopefully she will not have any more boxes full of papers are clothing. Honestly, Mandy’s mother has taken a big step in changing her life from a hoarder to someone who can show off her unique collections.

She has a long way to go still, because she needs to go through her many bags and purses, and order to find the best one for her to carry each day. Dolly also needs to gather her clothes and decide whether she wants some are not, so we can donate or sell the ones that she doesn’t want. At this point, Mandy is amazed at the progress that her mother has made, since we started this project six days ago. However, she wishes she could help her mother go through her stuff and finally get done with this daunting project.

(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding (Chapter 3)


“Here do you want this?” Dolly snidely asked.  

“What is it?” Mandy answered inquisitively.

Mandy instantly knew that her mother was in a bad mood today, but she was surprised when she saw the little black box she was holding. She took the little black box that her mother had given her and she took it with her to the kitchen. She slowly opened the box and was immediately stunned when she seen the beautiful necklace.

Mandy was puzzled by this gesture of kindness, despite her ill mood she was displaying at the time that Dolly gave her the gift.  She pulled the necklace out of the black box and put it on in front of the bathroom mirror. Mandy loved the necklace but, she wasn’t sure why her mother was in such an ill mood. Mandy headed back to her room, while wading her way around Dolly endless boxes of clothing and miscellaneous papers.

As Mandy walked by she said. “Thank you!”

“You’re welcome” Dolly grumpily stated.

About thirty minutes later, Mandy came out of her room, in order to help her mother go through more boxes. However, Dolly’s had changed drastically and she was very angry, but Mandy couldn’t figure out why she was so mad. Mandy try to ignore her attitude and continue working on getting her clothes separated. 
Suddenly, Dolly starts screaming at Mandy to leave her stuff alone, so Mandy decided to go to her room and watch a movie.

Mandy was feeling cold, but she has no warm shirts and she asked her mom if she could use one of her winter shirts. Dolly got angry and began ranting and raving about how Mandy needed to get her own clothes. However, Mandy got upset because she had lots of her own clothes when she moved in with her mother. Four year now, she has begged Dolly to go through her clothes and see if any of Mandy’s clothes are packed up with her clothes.

Unfortunately, Dolly refuses to go to her clothes and swears that none of Mandy’s clothes has gotten mixed up with her. Mandy’s mom has two closets full of clothes, as well as many boxes and baskets that are filled with clothing. Some of these clothes have not been touched in years, because they don’t fit her anymore. Currently, she is trying to get another closet built, in order to hold more of her clothes that she doesn’t want to get rid of.

Mandy believes that her mother should go through her clothes and keep what fits her, while letting the other clothes go to the local Goodwill. However, Dolly will not part with her clothes and she doesn’t really like sharing them with Mandy either. Right now, Mandy feels overwhelmed by the amount of boxes that are cluttering up her mother’s room and the kitchen. She prays that her mother will seek help for her problem with hoarding and with her depression.


(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman/Fictional Short Story)


Sunday, March 23, 2014

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding (Chapter 2)

Dolly spent another day sorting through her boxes of stuff, but Mandy can’t tell whether there has been progress or not. Unfortunately, all Dolly has done is created a trail to everywhere that she needs need to go. Kyle has to move boxes, in order for Mandy to get in the dressing room or to get dishes out from under the cupboard.

Dolly still has boxes that are up under the table and blocking some of the cupboards, which can be very frustrating. Sometimes, Kyle and Mandy just want to throw the boxes away, especially the ones that just old magazines or old bills. However, Dolly would have a fit, if they were to touch any of her precious stuff.

Mandy and Kyle want to be able to bring friends over for a barbecue or just sit around and hang out together. Additionally, they want to be able to do a Bible study and invite people to join them, but the kitchen table is always full of Dolly’s stuff. Every time Mandy moves it, somehow, Dolly places it right back up on the table.

Today, Mandy decided to work on a book that she’s been writing, plus, she worked a little on a volunteer project that she is involved with. Dolly continued moving stuff around, but all she did was place boxes to a different spot. Furthermore, Mandy’s new anxiety medication is working so she is able to tolerate the feeling of being overwhelmed when confronted with Dolly’s stuff.

Mandy and Kyle are spending more time together, which helps Mandy by giving her the house and away from Dolly. Whenever they return to the house they both feel overwhelmed by a dreadful feeling that consumes them. Both of them know that she will have a room full of boxes, including part of the kitchen.

One thing they have learned throughout the four years of living here is that Dolly will never change. She grew up with parents, who were hoarders and her brother is the same way. So, Mandy and Kyle just keep their side of the house clean and pray each day that Dolly will recognize her hoarding condition. Additionally, they pray that she realizes that she doesn't need all those boxes and will throw away the old stuff.

So far, Mandy and Kyle are doing their best with learning how to live with someone who is a compulsive hoarder. It’s not easy, but God doesn't put more on someone than they can handle. Thankfully, Mandy knows that with God’s help she will have the strength to endure the struggle with Dolly.

(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)


(Chapter 3 coming soon)

Saturday, March 22, 2014

How to Start Your Own Personal Prayer Journal


Four years ago, I founded an online support group for cancer patients and their families, which is named the Laugh at Cancer Support Community. Many times, I just listen to the members talk about their individual situation and we read the Bible together over the phone. However, I have had a few members asked me if I can teach them to pray, because most didn't feel comfortable talking out loud to God. So, I admitted that I don't pray out loud all the time either, instead I have kept a prayer journal for about ten years.
Use the talent that God gave you
Thankfully, a special woman named Ms. Annie gave me some helpful advice years ago about using the talent that God gave me. She encouraged me to write down my prayers to God, especially when I was a new Christian and in need of guidance. Whenever you pray, feel free play a musical instrument while praying or sing the prayer. This way, you are using your own talent to keep a close relationship with Jesus and God. Remember, that God knows your heart and you mind, so find a way to include him into your life every day in your own way.
Write what is in your heart
Never second guess yourself, instead always go with your own gut instinct and write what you feel led to discuss with God. Sometimes, it is easier to write down your feelings and thoughts, than it is to speak them out loud. You can open up your heart and let God know exactly what you feel and ask him to help you become a better person. Keeping a prayer journal will also help you obtain a closer relationship with your heavenly father and his son Jesus. No matter what you choose to write about in your prayer journal, be sure to remember to include Jesus Christ and repentance of your sins so God will hear you.

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Friday, March 21, 2014

A Family’s Struggle with Hoarding

“Living with a hoarder or someone who piles stuff in boxes, can affect your whole life and can be very overwhelming for someone with your physiological conditions.” Doctor Tater stated right before their counseling session was over

“I know, but at this time I cannot move out or away from the home, because of my mother. She is in a wheelchair. Over last four years, I have discovered that she cannot live alone and she has no one else to depend on. My mother is very gullible and someone would hurt her in some way or another.” Mandy stated in despair. Mandy loved her mom, she gets tired of the constant arguing between her and her mother.

“We will need to work on your triggers or things the make you angry with her, so you can learn to tune her out. I am giving you several medications, which you are to take at breakfast and before bed. You can start them immediately, but I want to see you back in two weeks.”

Whenever Dolly begins to argue with Mandy, generally Mandy will be the first to walk away and try to get her mind on something else. She will read a book, listen to audio books, write something on the computer, listen to music, or watch TV. Lately, Mandy has been helping her mother Molly, move her boxes around, so she can go through them and get rid of more junk.

Well, just recently Mandy found out that her mother hasn’t been sleeping well, which makes her very grumpy toward Mandy every day. Kyle is Mandy’s husband and he is the only person besides Mandy, who will help Dolly with things she wants done. However, if Kyle fixes something like a wall, Dolly’s wheelchair puts holes all in it.

Mandy and Kyle gave up everything they owned, in order to come save the house from the City of Jacksonville, Florida. Now, Mandy finds herself daily wondering, why she came back to save the house and keep her mother in it. She knows that her mother is going to hoard stuff, but Mandy cannot stand tripping over her mother’s stuff.

To put it plain and simple, Dolly has probably over fifty or more boxes stack up full of a bunch of stuff the needs to be thrown away. However, Kyle and Mandy have slowly cleaned out each room with her boxes in it and made it rooms that they can all use. Now, Dolly has moved to a living room and her boxes, what with her, so far as she is made of dent in cleaning the boxes out.

Mandy and Kyle believes that she is an unappreciative, dictator, bully, and very disrespectful to them. Furthermore, Mandy will always love her mother, but she prays everyday that her mother will have a better her attitude toward her. Therefore, maybe kindness and love from Mandy and Kyle, Dolly will grow out of what she’s learned from her own parents and she will learn to de-clutter her own life.


(2014, Crystal S. Kauffman)

Touched by Cancer Again

I want to tell you about my beloved Uncle Chris, who is the only uncle that I have ever known throughout my life. He helped take care of me and my twin brother Thomas, as we grew into young children. 

To me, he is and always will be my favorite person, to hang out with and talk too. He used to be a local race car driver, even though he lost his left leg at fifteen due to a drunk driver.

As an adult, he has taught me many things, which I will remember for the rest of my life and I will pass on to my children. Unfortunately, about two weeks ago, he went to the emergency room because he couldn't breathe. After several tests, the doctor found several masses on his lungs and the doctor informed him that it may be cancer.

After getting out of the hospital, he was able to get into a clinic that has helped him to locate the resources that he needed to get the treatment he needed. However, he went back to the hospital and went to the emergency room because he couldn't breathe again. This time they kept him as a patient and he had some biopsies done, which came back stating that he has stage 4 lung cancer.

He will start chemotherapy tomorrow, but the long-term outlook is not good and we have no idea how long we will have with him. So, I am making the most out of the time I have with him and making as many memories as I can. Additionally, I am asking all who read my blogs to please pray for him, his family, friends, and my family.


Honestly, I love him so much and I am asking God to heal him, in whatever way he feels is necessary. His mother and father (my grandparents) have already passed away and are in heaven. They will both be there to welcome him with open arms, once his journey on this earth is done and God calls him home.   

Friday, March 14, 2014

Getting Your Business Noticed


Another neat way to advertise; is to plan a grand opening party at your company and invite as many people as you can. Check into promoting on your local radio station or local TV station of about your grand opening. You can serve food and refreshments, while using a promotion that can help families like giving out child identification kits. These special kits can usually be found at the local sheriff’s office or in city hall. This type of promotion can benefit your business and the community’s safety, as well as give parents a peace of mind.
       
Depend on word of mouth advertising, by friends and customers that you have already serve with respect and honesty. Ultimately, your happy customers will end up bringing the most business to your company and your product. Therefore, always find a way to reward your customers that help advertise, by referring their friends and family. Give them a discount for each friend and family, which they bring to your business.


Also, try to leave flyers and brochures, in certain places where you believe that people will see it. You could try passing out your business cards and flyers, whenever you meet new people daily. Additionally, began social networking on Facebook and Twitter, as well as other social networking sites. Advertising is hard work but once you start getting steady stream of customers, you will find that your efforts have paid off.        

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Learning to Laugh the Cancer Blues Away on a Private Support Community

Jacksonville, FL/Feb. 5, 2014: A private support community has been created to help families who have been touched by cancer in anyway. The networking site Laughatcancer.ning.com has been created to allow patients, survivors, and families to meet other families facing the same devastating diagnosis. However, with the new blossoming friendships and the social networking in this private support community, families will learn how to cope with cancer’s touch.    

“The private support community will allow members to share their journey through cancer’s touch,” stated the Founder, Crystal S. Kauffman. She is a cervical cancer 2B survivor of ten years now and has kept the Laugh at Cancer Support Community alive and growing since 2004. She used the networking feature through Facebook to keep the community alive, after leaving Ning.com in 2012. However, she recently decided to return to Ning.com, in order to offer the private networking feature, which will make it easier for member’s to tell their story.

The networking feature will offer families: support, encouragement, and inspiration from volunteers or other members. As of Feb. 4th, 2014, Mrs. Kauffman reopened the private support community and is excited about its future potential.  Every new member will have the opportunity to meet new friends, volunteer in the community, or tell their story to other members. The private support community will allow member honor loved ones, start a discussion, join a group, or keep a daily blog.

In the future, she hopes the private support community will continue to grow, while raising awareness and celebrating the beauty of life. Mrs. Kauffman believes that laughter will help drive the cancer blues away. However, once the members begin networking with each other, friendships will begin to blossom into laughter and love for one another. Therefore, she would like to invite everyone to join us, especially those who have been touched by cancer or want to become a volunteer.  

The Laugh at Cancer Support Community/Website: http://laughatcancer.tripod.com

The Laugh at Cancer Support Community/Network: http://www.laughatcancer.ning.com



Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Laugh at Cancer Support Community has Reopened on Ning!

We Are Back!

I am trusting God and reopening the Laugh at Cancer Support Community at Ning.com, due to request from Facebook for a private community. The support community will have a new web address http://laughatcancer.ning.com and all are welcome to join us. Come join us is our mission to offer encouragement, laughter, inspiration, and support to families who need it.

If you were a member in our other support community or are currently a Facebook Page member, please join us at the PRIVATE support community and tell your story. You will meet other, who can be friends and encourage you in your journey.

Furthermore, if you are helping with the fight against cancer, come join us and tell others about your organization. You may create a group within our private community/network. This support community is a networking site for families touched by cancer whether…directly or indirectly! So come join us and help us make a difference by working together.

Volunteers Needed

I will need design volunteers, community volunteers, and help spreading the word about our new support community’s address.  Additionally, I need help gathering “Thinking of You” greeting cards by July 30th of each year for our Wings of Hope Project. Every year, I pass these out at cancer centers and nursing homes, because many patients don’t get visitors and it is nice to know someone cares. If you can help, please contact me, by phone 904-450-3560 or email laughatcancer@gmail.com.

Donations Needed

Honestly, it will cost $30.00 every month and I will need to raise $30.00 by the 14th of each month. Even a little amount will help me to continue keeping this private network or support community open for families touched by this devastating disease. I will need help covering this cost each month, so if you would like to help us keep the community alive and growing. My PayPal email is laughatcancer@gmail.com and you can email me at that address for any other information you may need.


We are not a non-profit organization; instead we are a support community/network that cares about those families touched by cancer. If you are able to help in any way, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. First payment is due Feb. 14th, 2014. Come join us and let’s make a difference together, also contact me if you can volunteer in any way.

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Seniors Can Overcome The Blues by Volunteering

Are you experiencing the holiday blues or struggling with loneliness this year? If so, you are not alone, because many seniors feel the same around this time of year. Maybe you are mourning the loss of a spouse or a loved one. Nevertheless, if you feel depressed, maybe it is time to talk with your personal doctor. Fortunately, there is help for depression, which can allow you to feel like yourself again.
Your physician will know if you need treatment or if the feelings will pass in time, so do not wait to seek help. Get out there and make a difference in your neighborhood, instead of feeling down or blue. Did you know that working with other seniors could be very rewarding and challenging for anyone?
Ways to Help
Maybe, you would enjoy being a heath care volunteer, which allows you to help others and create more friendships. This will allow you to comfort a baby, feed a sick child, or help a patient's family during a treatment or surgery. Many sick or terminal patient, can use and extra hand around the house or at a nursing home. Check out the local nursing facilities or visit local seniors, who are unable to leave their home.
Show someone you care, by visiting with them and being a true friend. Try visiting seniors in your neighborhood and bring them homemade meals. Some seniors require daily care like bathing and feeding, but others require a little more help or just an extra hand. Always make sure you are ready to learn more, because you may need these skills daily..
Starting a Mission
Your local church may have opportunities to help a local families or create you own mission Furthermore, you could give out Bibles, non-perishable food, or personal care boxes to people that truly need the help. There may be a few families in you neighborhood that desperately needs your kindness and encouragement. This year, some are spending the holidays in a nursing home or the hospital, due to their own illness.
If you like animals, then volunteer at the local dog pound or animal shelter. They will use all the help that they can get! They need people every day, to help care for these lonely abandoned pets. You may even find a special friend, who can help end your struggle with loneliness. Talk to your local shelter and ask about ways to help these homeless pets.
Getting Involved
Additionally, many local schools are in need of extra help, during each school year. Ask the local school or school board about the volunteer opportunities, which are available to you. Then, take the proper steps to get involved and watch as the blues begin to disappear. Every elementary school needs volunteers, in order to give the teachers an extra hand with the students.
Fortunately, there are several senior centers that offer fellowship with others, who are looking for companionship or friendship. These centers may also provide exercises or games, for everyone to participate in. Look around in your community for the nearest senior center and enjoy the companions, who are waiting for you. Many centers have scheduled events that everyone can do together, as a group or alone.
Making a Difference
In addition, many other local groups are looking for volunteers, in order to help spread their message. Be sure to look for local groups and volunteer opportunities that will spark your passion. No matter what you choose, you will find a way to get involved and help others that need it the most. Many families in your neighborhood may need a helping hand or a just a friend.
Either way, when you become a volunteer, you are helping other people and yourself. Thankfully, you will help your neighborhood or the city become stronger, while defeating your loneliness. However, be sure to find a way to help in your own community and the people in it. Therefore, you will be making a difference, so look for ways to get involved and beat the blues.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Remembering Lost Loved Ones

My Granddad and I, three weeks before he passed away. 

Do you ever think of me?
Are your truly happy and free?
I am weak and sad tonight,
Embrace me with your heavenly light.

My heart is empty and blue,
Everyday is painful without you.
The cancer took you away,
I miss you in every way.

You suffered and died so quick,
After the illness made you so sick.
Each memory blows me apart,
The anger has captured my heart.


Hold me, as I face my fears,
Can you wipe away my tears?
Why did you have to die?
Will the tears ever dry?


By, Crystal S. Kauffman
©2007

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Anniversary of a Dream


Missing the moments we spent,
Wondering where the time went.
Time has passed without a glance,
Sometimes, I wish I took that chance.

On our anniversary of the day we met,
I can’t help but wonder if I will ever forget.
The love we shared so long ago,
I wonder if you will ever know.

Never will I forget the dance we shared,
Nor will I ever believe you never cared.
Fate happened and tore us apart,
Yet, your love remains locked in my heart.

We will meet as we did once before,
But, only in my dreams forever more
Years have passed and time has sped by,
However, I will not let myself cry.

I will meet you once again in my dreams,
Where not everything is as it seems.
The secret garden I built back then,
I will always open up to let you in.